6 - Ego-death

What is humiliation? Have you ever felt so humiliated? In proportion to what i have read, This is a fear of shame, or any other mechanism of profound self-disapproval that threatens the loss of integrity of the Self; fear of the shattering or disintegration of one's constructed sense of lovability, capability, and worthiness.






This is by far worse than fear itself. For me, ofcourse. Let me explain. Being humiliated publicly is horrifying. As it leads to FAILURE. DOUBT. AND FEAR ITSELF. You are constantly avoiding mistakes. You are afraid of being a epic fail. Thus leading to insecurities. From insecurities you are inevitably turning away to your true nature self, such it leads to fear of being alone as you want to live up to everybody's expectation.


A chain of fears develop. From my experience, fear is absolutely devastating. It takes true determination to endure challenges. As one insignificant event may turn to worse by just leaving it there to sort out by itself. WRONG CHOICE MATE. Conquer and adapt at once. You might not know what it will lead.







According to Lao Tzu, “Pride attaches undue importance to the superiority of one's status in the eyes of others; And shame is fear of humiliation at one's inferior status in the estimation of others. When one sets his heart on being highly esteemed, and achieves such rating, then he is automatically involved in fear of losing his status.” 





The quotation stated that Pride is a lovely sight. But too much of that may lead to a disgusting ego. Sometimes, admitting mistakes saves you from being more humiliated. The fear is so easy to conquer that we don't even notice how easily it is to be adored. We put ourselves and our character first and it blinds us from what we perceive as humiliation. 





Source : http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/brainsnacks/201203/the-only-five-basic-fears-we-all-live

5 - Separation

Why did i make this blog? Simple, because my professor wants to. Kidding. I am making this blog because i want to share something about Separation. I want to discuss something about this and share my experiences. But first, let me introduce you what is "Separation". This is a fear of abandonment, rejection, disconnectedness - of becoming a non-person - not wanted, respected, or valued by anyone else. For me, separation has a big impact for everybody. Whether you love the person or not, a friend, loved ones, etc. 

The "silent treatment," when imposed by a group, can have a devastating psychological effect on the targeted person.
The impact is very troublesome as this leads to insecurity as stated in my previous blog. As people have needs such as attention. Being not wanted in society leads to devastating effects such as being afraid to trust.




I've had experiences related to this. The feeling of not being wanted not only by your peers but to your own family as well. Depression is a struggle that leads to unreliability to do my responsibilities and neglecting priorities as even though you do something significant, no one will be there to acknowledge and appreciate. I've had troubles at times. But it is all in my head after all. There are people who wants you. You just haven't seen it yet. And yes, it's true. No one is an island. No one can stand on their own. Friends are easy to come by but true friendship will always stand out and leave a mark.

Although it is not an official phobia, the fear of abandonment is arguably one of the most common and most damaging "phobias" of all. People with the fear of abandonment may tend to display compulsive behaviors and thought patterns that sabotage their relationships, ultimately leading to the dreaded abandonment. This fear can be devastating, but understanding it is the first step toward resolving it.

Jealousy is nothing more than a fear of abandonment. 




Source: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/brainsnacks/201203/the-only-five-basic-fears-we-all-live

4 - Loss of Autonomy

Many people are experiencing this kind of feeling, even me. This topic discusses that Loss of Autonomy is a fear of being immobilized, paralyzed, restricted, enveloped, overwhelmed, entrapped, imprisoned, smothered, or controlled by circumstances. 

In a physical form, it's sometimes known as claustrophobia, but it also extends to social interactions and relationships



Well this is one interesting topic to begin with. It's like being held against your will. Loss of freedom. Being a prisoner of your own self. 

I am a shy guy. I often over think about stuffs that doesn't need to be thorough. I admit I am a very insecure person. Especially socially. 

My perspective about this fear is that you lack of confidence to express your true self to unfamiliar territory. 

Often easily intimated my least actions of others caused by you unwillingness to take a risk to show yourself as it may discourage them to get to know you. Your anxiety over trivial matters may be not so trivial after all. That's the whole point! I am over thinking every single thing i do. That is why i encourage you as early as now. Be the guy who you want to be. Not be puppet of what people what you to be. Or you will be a prisoner of your shadow.



Devon Aoki pointed out that "Everyone has their own insecurities, regardless of how you look or how people perceive you, but sometimes people give their insecurities too much power. Defining beauty is simply a matter of opinion. For me, real beauty has very little to do with the structure of someone's face or body."

Therefore being insecure about something isn't really a big deal. For once, try not to look through the eyes. Not everything looks as it seems. More than meets the eye. Insecurities are just road block that prevents you from stepping forward. If you don't speak your mind, you will continue that gesture "WHAT IF". 





















Source : http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/brainsnacks/201203/the-only-five-basic-fears-we-all-live

3 - Mutilation

Are you afraid of being injured or losing any part of your body? Can you imagine how disabled or injured persons are living even though their disabilities are making them feel like it's the end of the world? Thinking of how will they walk without legs, on how they can eat without hands. How can they function properly if they have this kind of disabilities? Let me tell you something about this topic. Mutilation is the fear of losing any part of our precious bodily structure; the thought of having our body's boundaries invaded, or of losing the integrity of any organ, body part, or natural function. 

For example, anxiety about animals, such as bugs, spiders, snakes, and other creepy things arises from fear of mutilation.

I know this might sound odd, but ever since I was quite young, one of my worst fears has been me or people I care about either losing limbs, seeing them disfigured, or mutilation of some sort.

For most of my life, it didn't bother me, until my father got injured to the point part of a finger got mutilated in a work related accident.

I've mostly gotten over that.

My mother also had part of the end of a finger messed up (it was fixed in static position, permanently bent to a degree), and I'm mostly over that, though I admit I try not to look at it too often.


However, I just don't like to even think about it, and every time in my life where I feared it would happen to me or someone I cared for, it has proven intensely stressful.


Swami Sivananda expressed the opinion that "Forget like a child any injury done by somebody immediately. Never keep it in the heart. It kindles hatred."




As I've read, heard and experienced. Hate is one aspect that grows into fear. Generated by overwhelming emotions. Like revenge. A chain of reactions conquers ourselves and turns them into something we are not. 











Source : http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/brainsnacks/201203/the-only-five-basic-fears-we-all-live

2 - Extinction

I found that theoretically, there are five basic fears that we all live by. 

To break it down, what is the general meaning of fear?

Its an anxious feeling that is caused by our anticipation or some imagined event or experience. 



Extinction is number one. It is the fear of annihilation, ceasing to exist or for short, Fear of Death. 
Imagine, disappearing into this world not knowing where you would end up. Would you be a soul? An entity? or just the feeling of unconsciousness. Forever. Just thinking about it is mind blowing. 

Let's say perhaps your religion is Christianity. And you strongly and faithfully believe that when you die you would go to some place more beautiful. Heaven. Our final destination. How are we certain? Have we experienced it? Ofcourse not! Not until we die ourselves, then we will know about the true nature of death. Or is it just falling asleep and never wake up. Thinking about this phenomenon and expressing your hypothesis is way uneasy. Like the panicky feeling when you look over the edge of a tall building. Its the fear of the unknown. 






According to Mark Haddon, The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time, “I think people believe in heaven because they don't like the idea of dying, because they want to carry on living and they don't like the idea that other people will move into their house and put their things into the rubbish.”








When you die, are you certain that you are ready for it? As mentioned by elders if you die without finishing you mission here on earth, your soul will never rest until the deed is done. As written by Mark Haddon. Is it just a way of escaping reality? Heaven. Is it just a imaginary place society thinks about as you are fearful of what happens when you are dead. The theories, explanations and such are way too complex to comprehend. The astronomical proportions of understanding this is overwhelming. It's like if people believe in heaven because they don't like the idea of dying, maybe people who are afraid of death are afraid of the unknown.




Source : http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/brainsnacks/201203/the-only-five-basic-fears-we-all-live

1 - What I Think About Fear

What is fear? If you ask me, it's a very broad and complex topic to begin with. 

But I will try to breakdown every single definition about fear as it will be based on my experience and research.

Now, what is you greatest fear dare I ask? Is it death? Cockroaches? Darkness? Losing? 

Fear is a powerful emotion that drags us down from what we stand for.

As it weakens us from what we are gonna do.

For me, Fear is the number 2 most powerful emotion.

Why?

I believe that love is more powerful because as "IF" we love to do something, we won't let anything get in our way. Including fear. 

Back to the topic at hand, Fear is a render of emotions piled up as it's like going to explode, it builds up within ourselves and won't rest until it is conquered. If not conquered, it will be remaining inside you. As it is forgotten. Or is it? I firmly believe that it is not completely forgotten as it rest inside your subconscious mind, waiting to be woken up. That why robots are so lucky! They have no negative emotions that needs to be dealt with!

"We fear violence less than our own feelings. Personal, private, solitary pain is more terrifying than what anyone else can inflict." As said by Jim Morrison.

I personally believe what he said about self inflicting pain. It is way more depressing. As you let you fear run wildly inside you. It will grow and grow until you no longer accept it. Thus, making it a struggle for you to get out of the hole. Fear is so powerful that I may lead to self doubt, insecurities or even death.